- Why Procrastinators Procrastinate – This post and its follow-up describe my life perfectly. The Dark Playground and the Panic Monster are concepts I am intimately acquainted with. (h/t to NTE.)
Let me start by saying that I’ve had just about enough of the irony of battling through crippling procrastination while trying to write posts on procrastination and how to beat it. I’ve spent the last two weeks being this guy, who shoots himself in the foot while talking about gun safety, and I look forward to getting back to irony-free procrastination following this post.A few notes before we begin:- I’m not a professional at any of this, just a lifelong procrastinator who thinks about this topic all the time. I’m still in a total battle with my own habits, but I have made some progress in the last few years, and I’m drawing my thoughts from what’s worked for me.- In this post, I’m referring to both ADD and non-ADD procrastinators (and the line is often pretty hazy between the two), but not those with severe ADD/ADHD, who need something different than anything in this post can provide.- This post was posted late, not only because it took me 2,000 years to do, but also because I decided that Monday night was an urgent time to open Google Earth, hover a few hundred feet above the southern tip of India, and scroll all the way up India to the top of the country, to “get a better feel for India.” I have problems.
- This Is What Disability Binarism Looks Like – This post is framed around the viral image of a woman standing in front of her wheelchair to grab something of a liquor store shelf. The text on the pic says “Alcohol makes miracles happen.” As someone who can stand, with a lot of effort, mind, but I can, and also uses a powerchair, I offer this post all the QFT and +1. (h/t to Natalie.)
Don’t delude yourselves into thinking that this kind of ableism doesn’t happen or that it’s not harmful. It has happened to me. More than once. And when it’s being perpetuated by people who have the power to determine where your future goes….that’s scary. Wheelchair users are not all the same, and more wheelchair users can walk than you think. Don’t make assumptions and don’t gawk at me like I’m fricking Jesus when all I want to do is shop like a PERSON.
- 10 Ways That White Feminist and White Anti-Racism Allies Are Abusive To Me In Social Media – I’m an enormous fan of Trudy’s Twitter feed, with its mix of sharp womanist critique and Tom Hiddleston love, and I thought this essay was a great reminder about good intentions and the road to hell.
95% of the hundreds of microaggressions that I deal with per month are from White people who would probably tattoo the word “ally” to their left ass cheek. This doesn’t mean that conservatives don’t troll and abuse. They do. Terribly. It’s simply less frequently as they usually wait for a national racial incident to occur to terrorize me; i.e. GZ verdict. I don’t always encounter them daily or hourly.
The idea that I should simply overlook these irritating and manipulative passive aggressive behaviors, ones that occur hundreds of times a month (not hyperbole) simply because these Whites on the Left don’t tweet me direct slurs (some do use coded racist language though) is something that doesn’t sit well with me. Microaggressions harm. Occurring regularly over time has just as much impact as dealing with less frequent incidents of overt racism and the day to day of dealings with institutional racism.
- For The Blind, Connected Devices Create A Novel Way To Read – Judy Dixon, from the Library of Congress, talks about the current state of Braille reading technology in a short piece from the radio show All Things Considered. (I roll my eyes at the headline writer.)
I feel now that I can read almost anything that’s published, in one way or another, between my iPhone, my Kindle. The other kinds of Braille displays also can be connected to computers, so any book or document that can be read on a computer can be read with a Braille display.
The major drawback of refreshable Braille devices is that they are expensive. These devices are in the thousands [of dollars]. So a smaller version like this 14-cell unit that I have here would be about $1,500. Larger units, a 40-cell, would be in the neighborhood of [$3,000] to $4,000, and the prices go up. So these prices are somewhat prohibitive for many people.
- Not Here to Make Friends – I’m not totally with Roxane Gay on this one – I find flawed characters and anti-heroes interesting, but wish fiery death upon run-of-the-mill assholes who do little more than add misery to the world around them – but it’s a compelling article all the same.
As a writer and a person who has struggled with likability — being likable, wanting to be liked, wanting to belong — I have spent a great deal of time thinking about likability in the stories I read and those I write. I am often drawn to unlikable characters, to those who behave in socially unacceptable ways and say whatever is on their mind and do what they want with varying levels of regard for the consequences. I want characters to do bad things and get away with their misdeeds. I want characters to think ugly thoughts and make ugly decisions. I want characters to make mistakes and put themselves first without apologizing for it.
I want characters to do the things I am afraid to do for fear of making myself more unlikable than I may already be. I want characters to be the most honest of all things — human.
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An ice hockey fan from north of Boston and the genre's most beloved troll, Ridley enjoys reading contemporary and historical romance, as well as the odd erotica novel. As someone who uses a wheelchair, she takes a particular interest in disability themes.