- Women Are People Sometimes – Can’t say I ever thought I’d link to Something Awful on this blog, but here we are. I watch maybe two movies a year, and this post made me want to watch every one she mentioned.
Typically, you’d never know that from looking at the movies. A woman in the movies has only a few options; she’s the love interest (who might need to be saved), the concerned mother, or the super sexy femme fatale in sexy sex clothes, dangerous and sexy. Or maybe her purpose in the film is to birth the conflict, literally, and she has a freaky weird alien monster baby? Or some combination thereof. For sure, though, her role is usually somehow tied to the fact that she is a woman, and it’s often hilariously limited.
- Monster Porn: And the Sublime Attractions of Orientalism – File this under provocative. Remittance Girl makes some interesting points, but she also wanders a bit and makes a mess. I don’t know what I think about it.
It seems to me that the allure, in fiction, of vampires, were-lovers, Bigfoot, mermen and Cthulu-style characters is basically serving the same function. They are all ‘others.’ Because they don’t belong to our species, they serve as a site of projected fantasy for the excesses we don’t allow ourselves to consider with lovers of our own species. It is well-known that the undead can fuck you eight ways to Friday without getting tired, or getting you pregnant. You just know anything with fur, either chimera or evolutionary throwback, is going to be hung like a horse and animalistically horny. Their passion, to put it purply, has no bounds. And then there is the fantasy-species to beat them all – tentacle-sporting seafood. A woman might have moral problems fantasizing about taking three different human cocks at the same time and might be too politically correct to fantasize about a gang bang rape but, goodness, all those tentacles are simply genetically programmed to quest for orifices! And there’s nothing you can do about it!
- Body as a Second Language: Navigating Queer Girl Culture on the Autism Spectrum – The author speaks to a number of neuro-atypical queer women about dating and relationships and their answers are illuminating. I’d never really thought about how central non-verbal cues were to romance.
“I always knew something was different about me…” Thus starts the stereotypical coming out story, and mine is no different. Once I realized I was queer, however, my story diverges. There was no deep sigh of relief, no lightbulb moment of, “Ohhh, that explains everything.” Liking girls and gender-nonconforming people didn’t explain my unending fascinations with grammar and Guatemala or illuminate my talents in taking warning signs literally, tripping over my limbs on a daily basis, and flailing fantastically in social situations. My moment of clarity arrived later, when I was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder (ASD).
It wasn’t long until I started to wonder how autism impacted the realms of queer dating, relationships, and sex, so I decided to interview lesbian, bisexual, and queer women on the spectrum from around the world. I’m not speaking on behalf of “the autistic community.” Although we hold our diagnosis in common, the way each of us experiences ASD is unique. Yet when other queer autistic women confided in me, I was struck by what we share.
- Why We Need to Talk About Race in Adoption – Someone I don’t follow linked this on Twitter in the midst of this weekend’s #IStandWithMHP campaign and I thought it started a conversation more of us need to have.
Two years ago, on vacation in the Great Smoky Mountains, I saw a white couple at a restaurant with their Asian daughter. Though her father told her to quit staring, I felt the girl’s eyes on me all through the meal. I smiled at her, feeling a strong sense of kinship, a pang of sympathy. As a child, whenever I saw another Asian person – which I hardly ever did – I used to stare, too, hungry for the sight of someone, anyone, who looked like me.
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An ice hockey fan from north of Boston and the genre's most beloved troll, Ridley enjoys reading contemporary and historical romance, as well as the odd erotica novel. As someone who uses a wheelchair, she takes a particular interest in disability themes.