- Caroline Linden on historical erotica and the sexual mores of an earlier era – Linden stopped by AAR to talk about 17th and 18th century erotica The School of Venus and Fanny Hill before going on to discuss the ways the upper classes misbehaved in the early 19th century.
And widows were often the most liberated women of the time! There’s a reason lots of authors write about them; they were free of all that chaperonage (virginity was no longer an issue), they could actually own property so they could set up their own private homes, and they had a clue, sexually. I think remarriage must have been sort of a double-edged sword for a lot of them, especially if they had some money, given what they would give up. So I suspect people understood, if a widow discreetly took a lover.
- Why Isn’t There a Jezebel/Hairpin for WOC? – Racialicious’ Latoya Peterson posted an in-depth look into the world of WOC media and the challenges of securing funding.
Anil and Tressie came up with the Root and the Grio – and while both those sites are black focused, they were both launched as news destinations. And with the Root, a particular politics focus. While almost all black publications mix news and lifestyle, you probably aren’t going to serve the same audience. Meanwhile, publications like Clutch, Parlor, Madame Noir, etc get ignored yet again, even though they are the sites that are more in that vertical. I mentioned that, but also mentioned they do not have the same type of funding as a Jez or a Hairpin.
- In the Name of Love – I loved this takedown of the “do what you love” mantra. It frames work done out of necessity as some sort of failure and devalues the people doing the repetitive, unsatisfying work that allows others to do their creative, fulfilling work. I’ve never liked it.
“Do what you love” disguises the fact that being able to choose a career primarily for personal reward is a privilege, a sign of socioeconomic class. Even if a self-employed graphic designer had parents who could pay for art school and co-sign a lease for a slick Brooklyn apartment, she can bestow DWYL as career advice upon those covetous of her success.
If we believe that working as a Silicon Valley entrepreneur or a museum publicist or a think-tank acolyte is essential to being true to ourselves, what do we believe about the inner lives and hopes of those who clean hotel rooms and stock shelves at big-box stores? The answer is: nothing.
- Do Trans-racial Adoptees Know Anything About Trans-racial Adoption? – Every time I hear “She’s married to an American Indian” or “She has a child who’s autistic” as evidence that an author knows what she’s doing writing a marginalized character, I’ll think of this post.
I know many White adoptive parents who are raising their children of color wonderfully. Comments about this conversation should not lean towards questioning an adoptive parents’ love for their child, or capability of raising their child of color. There are plenty of adoptive parents who are doing a great job seeking out appropriate resources and asking tough questions about trans-racial parenting both publicly and privately. This discussion is about how the mainstream media chooses to portray transracial adoption. This discussion is about adult adoptees. Please stop speaking for us and assuming that your speculations are our realities. This discussion is about coming to terms with the fact that adoption ethics, practice and policies will not change until the public is willing to hear out more than just the adoptive parents’ perspective or their hopes and biased desires for our lives.
- The Word “Thug” Was Uttered 625 Times On TV On Monday. That’s A Lot. – I don’t follow football at all or know who Richard Sherman is, but I saw his comments after Sunday night’s game and I loved his WWE-style trash talk. Alas, the media got it’s knickers all in a bunch over a perceived lack of class and their reaction reminded me of the hockey media’s treatment of Evander Kane and P.K. Subban. Gold star if you can guess what all three men have in common.
The word “thug” has been used so many times by the same sort of people about the same sort of thing that it’s no longer even accurate to call it code—it’s really more of a shorthand. It means a black guy who makes white folks a little more uncomfortable than they prefer. On Sunday night, Richard Sherman made a lot of people uncomfortable. Then on Monday, people said thug on TV more often than on any other day in the past three years.
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An ice hockey fan from north of Boston and the genre's most beloved troll, Ridley enjoys reading contemporary and historical romance, as well as the odd erotica novel. As someone who uses a wheelchair, she takes a particular interest in disability themes.
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