Links: Tuesday, November 26th

November 26, 2013 Links 1

A black man wearing a red apron stands behind a cash register. The text reads, "Grocery store workers: we salute you."Hug a grocery employee this week.

  • This is what happens when the “most hated man on the Internet” messes with the wrong mother. – A mother takes on the king of revenge porn after her daughter’s topless photo got stolen and posted and comes out victorious. The amount of work she put in is staggering.

    Revenge porn was a pack of wolves. It was tearing our family apart. Kayla was withdrawn. Charles was agitated, and I was obsessed. I contacted Hunter Moore’s publicist, his attorney, his hosting company, his Internet Service Provider in France, some of his advertisers and his mother’s former workplace at the city of Davis, where associates pressed for details about Mrs. Moore’s son and his venomous website. I also registered Kayla’s photo with the U.S. Copyright office and spoke to nine attorneys about copyright law, right to privacy and options for legal recourse. The consensus was that revenge porn was largely untested in the civil courts, while criminal laws were nonexistent, except in the state of New Jersey. Within days, I became an expert on revenge porn; and it was not long before lawyers were telephoning me for guidance.

  • Sex, Books and Gender Roles: Guest Post – I don’t know what to make of this, but I found it interesting. I do know that the Dan Krokos post she cites looks kinda baseless and I don’t like the idea of needing to relate to the heroine and want to bang the hero. That’s not how I read and it sounds incredibly limiting for the genre.

    It’s been said many times that romance readers relate to the heroine and desire the hero. Plain Jane meets Hottie McHot. He’s a Navy SEAL, a vampire, a billionaire. Sometimes all three. That’s not even a joke. While the heroine can be average or even “mousy,” the hero is usually tall, strong and good-looking. One of the few male romance readers I know once said that the heroes always have big dicks. He enjoyed imagining himself as the well-endowed hero, while many female readers imagine themselves as the heroine.

  • Debating role of women in sports media – This is a meaty, full cup of coffee read that gives great insight into the world of sports media. Don’t read the comments.

    Two weeks ago Amy K. Nelson, an award-winning multi-media journalist and a friend, wrote a thoughtful piece for The on how women in the sports media are systematically at a disadvantage. It prompted some important dialogue on the internet and social media, as did a post by CBS Sports Radio host Amy Lawrence on the verbal and sexual harassment she’s experienced in the male-dominated world of sports radio. Both pieces struck a chord with me and prompted this column to reach out to six highly accomplished and respected women in the sports media for an email roundtable on the issues they deal with daily as women in the sports media.

  • But Sometimes, It Does Suck – A reminder that “having a good attitude” towards one’s disability shouldn’t mean that all the challenges disappear and there’s nothing to complain about. Sometimes shit’s annoying. It’s just not the end of the world.

    Some people might misread this post. They might want to post comments like “Stay strong!” or “You’re so brave!” If you’ve read much of this blog or any of my other posts, you know that’s the last thing I want. I’m not strong or brave or inspiring – I’m a person living my life the way that’s normal to me. All I’m saying is that there are emotional implications that come along with disability, and while portraying a character whose life is controlled by their disability is problematic, portraying a character who faces no emotional implications of their disability is problematic, too.

    So, when writing a disabled character, think about this. You can still have an independent, capable character while acknowledging the emotional implications of that disability as well.

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An ice hockey fan from north of Boston and the genre's most beloved troll, Ridley enjoys reading contemporary and historical romance, as well as the odd erotica novel. As someone who uses a wheelchair, she takes a particular interest in disability themes.

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One Response to “Links: Tuesday, November 26th”

  1. nu

    I get really tired of being told I’m unusual. Boys like this, girls like that. Such BS. I agree with the Tumblr poster, would this be acceptable in any other sphere of life? Would it be acceptable if a manager told his accountants that the men crunched numbers better? Give me a break. I have always liked boy things. I like romance too. Because frankly, it’s the only genre that gives relationships the time of day. That doesn’t make me a mystical creature, good grief. It means I’m not ashamed to read what I want. I’m also not a guy who will get flak if he gets caught with a romance.

    I think Sorenson’s idea that dudes don’t want to read women fantasizing about men is the most reasonable. There are books that _really_ play up the fantasy aspect (incidentally, I’ve always complained about those because the fetishizing/othering/reduction made me uncomfortable before I even knew what that was). Shrug. There are directors that target one demo or another, there are writers that do too.

    Oh, and before I got carried away, wanted to say the other links were great, especially the first (go Mom! go Anonymous!) and last.