Links: Tuesday, January 7th

January 7, 2014 Links 3

A color photo in a picture book of two llamas, one with it mouth open by the other's ear. Caption reads "I AIN'T GOT NO PANTIES ON"I need this book.

  • Women Are People Sometimes – Can’t say I ever thought I’d link to Something Awful on this blog, but here we are. I watch maybe two movies a year, and this post made me want to watch every one she mentioned.

    Typically, you’d never know that from looking at the movies. A woman in the movies has only a few options; she’s the love interest (who might need to be saved), the concerned mother, or the super sexy femme fatale in sexy sex clothes, dangerous and sexy. Or maybe her purpose in the film is to birth the conflict, literally, and she has a freaky weird alien monster baby? Or some combination thereof. For sure, though, her role is usually somehow tied to the fact that she is a woman, and it’s often hilariously limited.

  • Monster Porn: And the Sublime Attractions of Orientalism – File this under provocative. Remittance Girl makes some interesting points, but she also wanders a bit and makes a mess. I don’t know what I think about it.

    It seems to me that the allure, in fiction, of vampires, were-lovers, Bigfoot, mermen and Cthulu-style characters is basically serving the same function. They are all ‘others.’ Because they don’t belong to our species, they serve as a site of projected fantasy for the excesses we don’t allow ourselves to consider with lovers of our own species. It is well-known that the undead can fuck you eight ways to Friday without getting tired, or getting you pregnant. You just know anything with fur, either chimera or evolutionary throwback, is going to be hung like a horse and animalistically horny. Their passion, to put it purply, has no bounds. And then there is the fantasy-species to beat them all – tentacle-sporting seafood. A woman might have moral problems fantasizing about taking three different human cocks at the same time and might be too politically correct to fantasize about a gang bang rape but, goodness, all those tentacles are simply genetically programmed to quest for orifices! And there’s nothing you can do about it!

  • Body as a Second Language: Navigating Queer Girl Culture on the Autism Spectrum – The author speaks to a number of neuro-atypical queer women about dating and relationships and their answers are illuminating. I’d never really thought about how central non-verbal cues were to romance.

    “I always knew something was different about me…” Thus starts the stereotypical coming out story, and mine is no different. Once I realized I was queer, however, my story diverges. There was no deep sigh of relief, no lightbulb moment of, “Ohhh, that explains everything.” Liking girls and gender-nonconforming people didn’t explain my unending fascinations with grammar and Guatemala or illuminate my talents in taking warning signs literally, tripping over my limbs on a daily basis, and flailing fantastically in social situations. My moment of clarity arrived later, when I was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder (ASD).

    It wasn’t long until I started to wonder how autism impacted the realms of queer dating, relationships, and sex, so I decided to interview lesbian, bisexual, and queer women on the spectrum from around the world. I’m not speaking on behalf of “the autistic community.” Although we hold our diagnosis in common, the way each of us experiences ASD is unique. Yet when other queer autistic women confided in me, I was struck by what we share.

  • Why We Need to Talk About Race in Adoption – Someone I don’t follow linked this on Twitter in the midst of this weekend’s #IStandWithMHP campaign and I thought it started a conversation more of us need to have.

    Two years ago, on vacation in the Great Smoky Mountains, I saw a white couple at a restaurant with their Asian daughter. Though her father told her to quit staring, I felt the girl’s eyes on me all through the meal. I smiled at her, feeling a strong sense of kinship, a pang of sympathy. As a child, whenever I saw another Asian person – which I hardly ever did – I used to stare, too, hungry for the sight of someone, anyone, who looked like me.

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An ice hockey fan from north of Boston and the genre's most beloved troll, Ridley enjoys reading contemporary and historical romance, as well as the odd erotica novel. As someone who uses a wheelchair, she takes a particular interest in disability themes.

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3 Responses to “Links: Tuesday, January 7th”

  1. nu

    I don’t think that blogger sees a lot of movies either, Ridley, lol. She forgot Wadjda, 20 Feet from Stardom, Catching Fire, August: Osage County, Blue is the Warmest Color, Short Term 12, Adore, etc., etc.

    Re: second link… With all the BDSM, ménage, etc., being published, women don’t need an excuse for anything. In fantasy everything can be bigger, faster, stronger. It’s 2014. We have literotica and entire categories devoted to non-con. Her theory’s more applicable to the 70s, when yes, there were thinly -or sometimes not- veiled rape fantasies published, and women weren’t willing to admit it. I don’t blame them, considering society was just coming around to the fact that women were allowed to be sexual. They were expected to be passive objects to the point that a rapist hero would have been more acceptable than a woman taking control of her sexuality. The environment is not the same. This theory dismisses context in more ways than one. Vampires are simply not Others! They look, in every other respect besides a pair of fake teeth, like your typical hero, white, even platinum blond. Their culture is identical to the dominant one, down to the jokes that they crack, except for those elements that lend themselves to female fantasies. There’s not much shame or angst attached to them anymore, and there’s simply no baggage. People don’t have trouble seeing them as heroes. None of the flags are there. Female authors project their fantasies onto them because they’re imaginary, they can be whatever you want them to be, rather than because society has told them that these people are lesser than them.

    PS. Last two links are pretty cool.

  2. Ridley

    @nu: Yeah, that Remittance Girl post also doesn’t seem to distinguish erotica and romance. The HEA of romance is what makes squicky fantasies a hard sell, not externally applied shame in the form of political correctness. People are much less willing to romanticize racism, rape and misogyny than they are to eroticize it. You can find pretty much every sexual fantasy in erotica.

  3. nu

    @Ridley: Yep. And this isn’t romance, but it speaks to the point about “vampires” standing in for -and excusing absent- POC, LGBT and other marginalized people in romance. Who Gets to Be a Superhero could easily be called Who Gets to Be a Romance Hero. Academic paper on the same, since some people seem to respond to that more.