- ‘Dear Prudence’ Just Gave the Most Offensive Advice Imaginable to a Bisexual Woman – This week in biphobia features the generally-awful Emily Yoffe stuffing a woman back into the closet and locking it shut.
In an earnest letter, “Irrelevant Closet” notes her husband’s hesitation about the idea of coming out, but truly believes that her friends and family would embrace her sexual orientation. But Prudence believes remaining in the closet is the only way to go, perpetuating stereotypes of bisexual people as threatening, indecisive mates in the process.
“You are confusing your personal sexual exploration with a social imperative,” she wrote. “But you say you are planning to not only stay with your husband, but remain monogamous. I agree with your husband that making a public announcement about something so private will not be illuminating but discomfiting.”
- Lifetime Promises To Bring Out The ‘Strong Black Woman’ In White Women – Everyone involved in designing and greenlighting this show needs to be put in a rocket and shot into the heart of the sun.
Lifetime’s new show Girlfriend Intervention is not subtle about its message. Its premise is four black women giving a makeover to a white woman on the theory that, as they put it, “Trapped inside of every white girl is a strong black woman ready to bust out.”
The four makeover makers are Tracy Balan on beauty, Nikki Chu on “home and sanctuary,” Tiffiny Dixon on fashion, and many-many-many-time reality star Tanisha Thomas (most notably of Oxygen’s Bad Girls Club) as your — this is real — “soul coach.” Thomas lays out her philosophy early in the first episode, saying that black women are taught that no matter what else is going on in your life, “as long as you look fabulous, that’s all that matters.” On the other hand, she says, “with Caucasian women, you get married, you marry the man of your dreams, you have his children, and now it’s time to stop taking care of you? Girl, I missed that memo.”
- Empowering Makeover for Maynard Handicapped Spaces – No one involved in this “empowering” re-do of the handicap symbol is a wheelchair user. I happen to more closely resemble the figure in the older symbol and resent the implication from a bunch of non-disabled do-gooders that I lack agency or dignity because of it. Non-disabled people taking it upon themselves to decide what we need is the opposite of empowerment.
Maynard’s municipal parking spaces—all 15 of them—got a refresh this month: A new graphic icon.
Gone is the standard International Symbol of Access, which portrays a passive, immobile person in a wheelchair. In its place, there’s the icon created by the Malden-based Accessible Icon Project, which depicts a more active and empowered person in the wheelchair.
The makeover was spearheaded by 18-year-old Maynard resident Kayla O’Mahony, who suggested it to the town’s Board of Selectmen on May 7.
“I want to help shift society’s perspectives on people with disabilities, and I figured an old, outdated icon that people look at every day was a good place to start,” O’Mahony said in a statement.
- Quick Thoughts On NFL’s New Domestic Violence Policy – Jessica W. Luther breaks down yesterday’s letter from the NFL’s commissioner on the league’s new approach to domestic violence perpetrated by players.
My quick thoughts:
- Everyone should read the entire letter before forming opinions about it.
- Good job, public and sports media who got really angry that Ray Rice only got a two-game suspension for beating his fiancee unconscious. The outcry following that punishment is most definitely the ONLY reason this letter exists today.
- 5 of those 6 policies are proactive. This is important. The 6th part – the punishment part – will get a lot of play and sports media will focus on it. But the first 5 policies are all about preventing violence before it happens, both internally within teams and externally within communities. Punishment will not deter this violence but rooting it out before it happens, that could.
- All the stuff about being proactive in an attempt to prevent violence (which is the bulk of the letter), FEMINISTS DID THAT. The NFL was listening to somebody when they wrote that letter and it wasn’t just DUDEZ.
- Building 3D with Ikea – Apparently the Ikea catalogue uses CG to create images of individual furniture pieces as well as entire rooms. What a time to be alive.
Every year, CGSociety goes to SIGGRAPH, one of the premier conferences on innovation for the computer graphics and VFX industries in the world. In 2012, we watched as Martin Enthed, the IT Manager for the in-house communication agency of IKEA, gave a short presentation. He told us how their visualisation team had evolved from the use of traditional photography for the IKEA catalogue to a system today, where the bulk of its imagery is CG. I remember leaving the auditorium (which was packed) thinking, “Those natural-looking photographs in the IKEA catalogues are amazing. I can’t believe they’re mostly CG. It’s incredible.” It was such a great presentation that we went and saw it again in 2013 when it was an official talk, and figured you guys might like to know how IKEA did it – what they had to build and innovate to get their still images to look so real. So we made a time to catch up with Martin, and asked him how and why IKEA decided to make the leap from traditional to digital.
- We Must Risk Delight After a Summer Full of Monsters – Molly Crabapple has an important piece on finding and clinging to whatever joy you can as the world crumbles around you.
We need beauty. But what right did I have, I kept asking myself, in a world so full of hell?
In his poem, “A Brief for the Defense,” Jack Gilbert attempted an answer. “We must risk delight,” he wrote. Life contains everything. Tear gas in Ferguson. Books read on the grass. Foley’s murder. Dancing in New Orleans, till sunrise blots the stars. We’re meat—fragile and finite. But joy is survival.