Links: Tuesday, November 18th

November 18, 2014 Links 5

Today’s Links:

  • 25 Erotica Lit Tropes That Need to Die – So, I found this listicle on Cosmo totally spot on and amusing, but not everyone agrees. (I’m right, though. ;-)

    1. Women climax on demand. “Come for me [insert two-syllable name of erotica protagonist here]!” he commands, thus unleashing her, bringing us to:

    2. “I come undone.” A thing no woman has ever said, either aloud or in her own brain.

    3. Women come from penetrative sex. This usually happens either after never having a single orgasm in her entire twentysomething years of life or never having an orgasm from penetration.

    4. Women never have bad pain or hesitation when he wants to put something up their butts. Be it his penis, a butt plug (Hi, Mr. Grey will you see me now?), a finger. She surrenders all orifices without hesitation no matter what object he wants to put inside her when in the presence of her “sex god.”

    5. “My sex.” It’s called a clit.

    6. “His length.” It’s called a dick.

  • A Look at How Media Writes Women of Color – Bitch Magazine sums up #HowMediaWritesWOC, a hashtag event that discussed the million ways that the media treats women of color differently than they do white women.

    Nearly every Saturday morning, feminists of color hold Twitter discussions taking a deeper look at issues, such as gender violence. It’s the best kind of Saturday morning breakfast club. Sometimes it really takes off. In October, for example, dozens of people took on the task of decolonizing discussions of domestic violence (#decolonizeDVAM). Last week’s Saturday morning hashtag immediately grabbed my attention: #HowMediaWritesWOC.

    As a woman of color media maker, I was definitely intrigued—how are media outlets writing about women of color? How are they not? How can I, as one of these people who writes about issues facing women of color, do better?

  • Is Beauty In The Eye(Lid) Of The Beholder? – This is the first of a two-part series by an Asian woman that looks at “double-eyelid surgery” in Asian communities. It’s a thoughtful piece that goes beyond the clickbait-y “is this thing good for society?”

    There’s a surgery you can have to get double eyelids, and that itself is controversial. It’s called an Asian blepharoplasty, the Asian part referring to who gets it, the blepharoplasty part referring to more general eyelid surgery. While the procedure is generally cosmetic, it’s really important to stress that there are medical reasons why people seek Asian blepharoplasties — their lids are too heavy and obstruct vision, for instance.

    Stepping past the controversy — Is it appropriate to get this surgery? What beauty standards are you abiding by or reinforcing? — I wanted to get at the why. Why some of us get the surgery, why some of us don’t, or why everyone seems to have an opinion about those who seek it. I spoke with many people who had the surgery, considered it or chose not to get it. But to understand how the surgery became so common, I found it helpful to dig into its history, which goes back more than a century.

  • In the land of make-believe, racial diversity is a fantasy – Another day, another person calling for more inclusive fiction. Don’t even try to tell me there’s no market for it.

    For months, night after night, my husband has read the Harry Potter series to our 6-year-old son. After finishing each book, they watch the corresponding movie, and they’re now on Book 4, “Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.” Suffice it to say, our son is a big fan. So it was no surprise when he considered dressing up as Harry for Halloween. But our hearts sank when he quickly added, in a matter-of-fact tone of disappointment, “But I’m not tan. I’m brown.”

    Tan and brown are terms for white and black that my son picked up at his progressive school; they’re seen as less political and more precise, and I guess they take some of the sting off. But the words don’t change the long-standing reality: In the United States, children’s fantasies are still largely imagined in white.

  • R.A. Montgomery, ‘Choose Your Own Adventure’ author, dies at 78 – How fitting that the Choose Your Own Adventure guy had a job history that went all over the place.

    Born Raymond Almiran Montgomery, he graduated from Williams College in 1958 and moved on to Yale Divinity School, where he was soon after kicked out for “spending too much time skiing and mountain climbing.” His first job was at The Wall Street Journal and after a short stint as an assistant dean at Columbia University, founded the Waitsfield Summer School in Vermont in 1966. There, he focused on children with learning disabilities.

    He first started working in publishing in 1975, co-founding Vermont Crossroads Press with his then-wife, Constance Cappel. There, he published Ed Packard’s children’s book Sugarcane Island as the first in a series called The Adventures of You. Montgomery wrote the followup, Journey Under the Sea, under the pen name Robert Mountain. After selling the Vermont Crossroads Press to Cappel, he took the series with him to Bantam books, where it was rebranded as Choose Your Own Adventure, which went on to become the fourth bestselling children’s book series in the world.

  • Uber Keeps Acting Like It’s Invincible. What If It’s Not? – Oh look, it’s a “disruptive” tech startup showing it’s open to blatantly cheating to get ahead. Where did I put my surprised face…

    BuzzFeed Editor-in-Chief Ben Smith dropped a bombshell on Uber on Monday evening. At a recent dinner in Manhattan—attended by the likes of Smith, Arianna Huffington, and Ed Norton—a senior Uber executive reportedly suggested that the company should “consider hiring a team of opposition researchers to dig up dirt on its critics in the media.” That executive was Emil Michael, Uber’s senior vice president of business. Travis Kalanick, Uber’s chief executive, was also there.

    In particular, Michael suggested that a prospective team of Uber dirt-diggers could focus its energy on Sarah Lacy, the editor of tech site Pando Daily and an outspoken critic of Uber. According to Smith’s account, Michael said that Uber’s researchers could “expose Lacy” and “prove a particular and very specific claim about her personal life.” When attendees at the dinner floated that this strategy might not help Uber’s cause, Michael allegedly responded, “Nobody would know it was us.”

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An ice hockey fan from north of Boston and the genre's most beloved troll, Ridley enjoys reading contemporary and historical romance, as well as the odd erotica novel. As someone who uses a wheelchair, she takes a particular interest in disability themes.

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5 Responses to “Links: Tuesday, November 18th”

  1. cleo

    I wonder if part of the reaction against the 25 erotica tropes is context – because it’s on a mainstream site I think it triggered a more defensive response than it would have on a romance blog. I know I’ve read similar lists on romance sites that didn’t elicit so many “you need to read better erotica” type comments.

    I mean, I agree that everyone should read better erotica (life’s too short to read bad books), but that’s not really the point of lists like this. I thought the list was pretty accurate – and I assume that someone knowledgeable enough to write it is a fan of the genre and doesn’t need to be schooled in “good” erotica.

  2. Nu

    Yeah, I thought the comments on the erotica post were a bit shaming…

    Is there a point to Uber other than avoiding brown cab drivers? Is it cheaper?

  3. Bona

    3. Women come from penetrative sex. This usually happens either after never having a single orgasm in her entire twentysomething years of life or never having an orgasm from penetration. This is a trope that you find out in the majority of romance novels, not only erotica. One that writers should change -I think.

  4. Ridley

    @Nu: I’m pretty sure the appeal of Uber is the app. You can order a ride from your phone/computer without talking to anyone.

  5. Nu

    I thought that already existed? Maybe all the marketing and name visibility has encouraged cabs to sign on then…